The Power of Authentic Listening

Hello everyone!

It has been many months since I shared. Since today we Focused into the felt sense of authentic sharing and authentic listening in a Step Five Recovery Focusing workshop, I decided to share a bit about what came for one person.

Here is part of her process, relating to authentic listening:

It is as if she had had a soul thirst. She had been floating out in the ocean, drinking salt water, which never quenched this thirst. By giving and receiving authentic listening, it was like she was drinking fresh water. It was like a bending, twisting river. She felt streams inside her body. Her thirst was finally quenched.

I love the magic of Focusing and Listening! May we all quench our thirst for authentic relating through real sharing and heart-felt listening!

Step Five: Admitted to our Higher Power, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

Focusing helps us discover the “exact nature” of a pattern we wish to work on. By finding its symbol, what it needs, and sharing it with others, it is heard and released. New insights come. New ways of behaving, thinking, and feeling are revealed to us.

We had a wonderful, powerful workshop today. We experienced “Healing through We-ing” by practicing sharing and listening, together!

Here are the promises of Step Five:

“Once we have taken this step, withholding nothing, we are delighted.
We can look the world in the eye.
We can be alone at perfect peace and ease.
Our fears fall from us.
We begin to feel the nearness of our Creator.
We may have had certain spiritual beliefs, but now we begin to have a spiritual experience.
The feeling that the drink problem has disappeared will often come strongly.
We feel we are on the Broad Highway, walking hand in hand with the Spirit of the Universe.”
Alcoholics Anonymous p 75

Thank you for listening!


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2 Responses to The Power of Authentic Listening

  1. Kelly Jackson says:

    I like what I have read in your posts thus far and I was wondering if you would define further for me what you are talking a about when you say “authentic listening?”

  2. Hi Kelly. Authentic Listening was this person’s language. And I would say it is whatever it means to each person, freshly in the moment. Like right now, for me, it means someone leaning in closer to really hear me, take me in. (I get an image of this.) As I think about it, it also means real listening, listening to just listen, not to reply or fix. What does it mean to you as you close your eyes and hold that phrase, “Authentic Listening”? Maybe a feeling comes or an image or a word?
    Thanks for asking.

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